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Intimate partner homicide is the 7th leading cause of premature death for women in the United States. It’s the number one cause of premature death among African American women between the ages of 15-45. Are those numbers not scary enough? How about this: Of all the women murdered in this country each year, half of them are killed by their intimate partners. And those figures do not include ex-boyfriends.
Is there a means to prevent these deaths? Should a woman be able to see this coming? Are there indicators that her partner is approaching the point of no return? Well, possibly.
Several risk factors have been associated with the murders of battered women. However, many of the women who were killed by their domestic partner never realized the severity of the abuse. Sure, they knew they’d been beaten, had bones broken, etc., but they never actually thought they’d be killed. They suffered from the, “He’d never really do it because I know he loves me…” syndrome. And that’s not a bad thing, wanting to believe the best in your partner. But denying a problem is harmful, especially when it comes to abuse.
So what are some of the indicators that a partner’s violence may be escalating to the point of no return?
Studies have found a direct correlation between gun ownership and intimate partner homicide. In fact, women who are threatened with a gun are more likely than other women to be murdered—20 times more likely. Just the mere presence of a gun in the house causes an abused woman’s chance of being murdered to be 6 times higher than a woman living in a gun-free home.
Other risk factors include:
- Serious alcohol and drug abuse, where the abuser is high or drunk on a daily basis.
- Threats to kill
- Forced sex
- Partner controls all activity (when to leave the house, etc.)
- Woman is beaten while pregnant
- Partner beats the children
- Partner is violent outside the home as well
- Partner has threatened suicide
- Abused victim has thoughts that her partner will attempt to kill her at some point during their relationship
- Abused victim has thoughts of suicide to escape the violence
Photo credit – FBI
Has your partner ever done or caused any of these things? If so, you are at risk. Please seek help immediately.
- Slapping, pushing—no injuries and/or lasting pain
- Punching, kicking—bruises, cuts, and/or continuing pain
- “Beating up”—severe contusions, burns, broken bones
- Threat to use weapon—head injury, internal injury, permanent injury
- Use of weapon—wounds from weapon
Ask yourself the following questions. If your answer to any of the questions is yes, you are at risk. Please seek help immediately. Do not wait!
- Has the physical violence increased in frequency over the past year?
- Does he ever try to choke you?
- Does he keep a gun in the house? In his vehicle?
- Has he ever forced you to have sex?
- Does he use drugs? Any drugs?
- Does he threaten to kill you?
- Is he drunk every every day?
- Does he control most or all of your daily activities, like who you can be friends with, how much money you can have, or when you can take the car, when can use the phone, etc.) Does he always have to be with you when you visit family, or go shopping? Does he tell what clothing you can and cannot wear?
- Have you ever been beaten by him while you were pregnant?
- Is he extremely jealous?
- Have you ever threatened or tried to commit suicide?
- Has he ever threatened or tried to commit suicide?
- Is he violent toward your children?
- Is he violent outside of the home? Does he fight with others?
Laci Peterson – murdered by her husband, Scott.
In 2008, 14% of all homicides were committed by intimate partners (70% of the victims were female).
Scott Peterson is currently awaiting his appointment with San Quentin’s executioner. He was sentenced to death for murdering his wife and unborn child, and tossing them in the San Francisco Bay on Christmas Eve of 2002. It is believed that Peterson fabricated homemade anchors from blocks of concrete and them fastened them to Laci’s body, hoping she’d remain on the bottom of the sea, forever.
Now, Peterson spends his days playing basketball and cards with other murderers. Oh, perhaps I should mention all the letters and money he receives from female admirers from all over the world. He deposits the cash into his inmate account, spending up to $180 per month on frilly things, like soda, cookies, and deodorant.
It’s me, I. B. Steelin, the guy who broke into your car last night. Sorry about having to wear the mask, but I heard a bunch of cops hang out on this site and I can’t risk going back to prison.
Anyway, thanks for leaving so many goodies on the front seat. Caught my eye right away. My kids needed the new iPod, and the wife will absolutely love the purse. Louis Vuitton, right?
Your neighbors were equally as generous. The blue house two doors down… Left their car doors unlocked, so a quick stab at the remote and, BINGO, up goes the garage door. What a field day that was…power tools and a small TV (perfect for the kids’ room, by the way). I also took a quick peek inside the house. They’ve got a really sweet flat screen and I’ll definitely be back for it another night.
Across the street… Yep, the people with the BMW. Sunroof was open again so I took the gym bag from the back seat. Not much inside but the bag was nice. The best part, though, was what I found in the glove compartment. All sorts of documents containing personal information—social security numbers, addresses, pin numbers, bank statements (I see some new charge accounts opening in the very near future), a letter from the alarm company saying they hated losing BMW’s business and that service could be reinstated for the low, low price of $19.95 per month and, well, let’s just say it was a real smorgasbord. My favorite thing, though, was the key ring…front door key, key to the business downtown, the tool shed, the rear gate…(yep, they were labeled).
There was a blue SUV on the next block. Two boxes in the rear—a microwave and a projector for a home theater. Spotted them from the street while passing by. The owner should’ve taken the time to pull the built-in cover over the cartons. But…easy money for me. Took a rock from the landscaping beside the driveway and those two sweet items were quickly in my greedy little paws. The cards read, Congratulations, Billie! So thank you very much, Billie, for whatever you did that almost earned you a couple of nice, new gifts. Mine now.
Actually, the entire neighborhood was easy-pickings. Lawns not mowed (a sure sign no one had been home for a while), newspapers piled up in the driveway, mailboxes overflowing, windows open, no lights in houses and yards, garage doors up, lawn mowers and bicycles left outside, no curtains on garage and basement windows, and there was even one house with a note pinned to the front door—“Be Back Tomorrow. Please Leave Deliveries In Kitchen. Key Under Mat.” Well, Duh. Loved the cheesecake in the fridge, by the way. And those homemade cookies…to die for.
Okay, that’s enough for now, but I’ll be back for the rest of your things. Unless, of course, you start using some common sense and lock up, close the sunroof, turn on a light or two, and activate those alarms. Until then, you’re just another number in the 1.85 million thefts from vehicles that occur each year. That number is indeed correct and, as a result, my friends and I steal approximately 1.26 BILLION items from cars each and every year.
So…thank you very much for helping us achieve our personal goals.
See you soon. Very soon…